• femme fatale – an attractive and seductive woman, especially one who will ultimately bring disaster to a man who becomes involved with her •
I’m just gonna jump right into it with this series and start with the one of the most controversial components: modesty.
I’ve briefly touched on this topic before. I think I’m ready to tackle it now. Remember these are my opinions.
Now, there is a motto that travels around the Christian sphere that says: modest is the hottest.
Here’s my problem with that phrase. If you are claiming that modesty is the hottest way to go about being a woman, you are imply that the purpose of me putting on clothes in the morning is to be “the hottest.” If we teach our girls this ideal, we are teaching them that the importance of modesty is to look hot for each other and for other men. Doesn’t that seem twisted to you?
My views on this has changed at least twice over the past couple of months and I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about this (because I have nothing else to do with my life 😅).
As a Christian woman, my purpose in life is to look like Christ and bring Him glory in EVERYTHING I do (Colossians 3:17). This includes the way that I dress. (If you’ve read one of my previous posts from Redefined, you will know that I am being very contradictory. But remember, I just said my views have changed.)
I also can vaguely remember the last time someone complimented me on my inward “appearance.” Ladies, if you take a moment and think about the last time you complimented another woman on her outward appearance, you might say something like “an hour ago” or “yesterday.” But, when was the last time that you complimented your fellow sister in Christ on her humility? Or her boldness? Or her ability to stay calm in the midst of a chaotic situation?
Here’s what I think, in a nutshell. The Christian community should be less concerned about the outward appearance of women and more concerned about what is on the inside. I can specifically remember sitting in a chapel service and having numerous peers dismiss the message of the woman on stage because she was wearing leggings. That is absurd!
And I do understand not wanting to be a hindrance to our fellow brothers. Men are more visual than women. But who is to say that a woman won’t lust after a man who is wearing a bro-tank because she fancies biceps?
What I’m really trying to say is: I want to be a femme fatale woman. Let me redefine that for a moment. The literal translation from French means: disastrous woman. I want to be a woman who is dangerous to the world of darkness. I want to be dangerous in the way that it doesn’t matter what I’m wearing. I honestly don’t think that God will dismiss my prayer because my pants are “too tight,” or I can’t cast out a demon because my shirt is cut “too low.”
Despite what I’m wearing, I want to be femme fatale. I want a society where I can walk down the street and people notice how I carry myself before they notice what I’m wearing (even if I am wearing leggings for pants). And we have a long way to go ladies and gents. A LONG way! Maybe I’m being unrealistic. But, as a Christian community, let’s not get so caught up on being the hottest modest girl in the room, but the woman who loves like Jesus.