I Can’t Do This

There’s an incredible stigma that comes with mental health. Stigma is synonymous with shame, disgrace, and humiliation.

There have been articles and Buzzfeed videos about how NOT to treat people with mental health problems. Yet, there is little on how to treat people with mental health disorders. I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist, but I have struggled with anxiety for 5 years so I do a little something.

  1. DO use the word “disorder.” Disorder is NOT a curse word. That’s what it is. For the longest time, I HATED using that word because that would mean admitting to having a problem. For the longest time, I convinced myself that it was all in my head (again, NEVER tell someone that. Please refer to previous rants). But when we don’t use the word disorder, we ourselves are helping the stigma. You can use “problems” or “issues,” as long as you’re not afraid to use the word “disorder.”
  2. DO do your research. One of my closest friends casually texted me about my anxiety and prefaced it with “I was googling anxiety and…” Let me tell you guys, that sent me over the moon! It means that she cares. It means that she wants to learn more and wants to do all she can to help me. Don’t assume you know what anxiety is. Read blogs from people who have dealt with it (like the one you’re reading right now). Go find some discussion boards. There are tons!
  3. DO ask questions. This one is a little trickier. Some people have not fully accepted it or fully understand their disorder themselves. But, if the person is comfortable with it, ask questions. Making assumptions is not okay. So if you don’t know, ask. And if you’re too afraid or unsure about asking, refer to number 2.
  4. Be there. I can’t do this alone. My anxiety takes a toll some days. Most days I want to stay in bed and never get up because I wake up an anxious mess. But, I get up because I have a savior who died for my anxiety and friends who love me no matter what.

I know I only talked about anxiety. But this applies for all mental health disorders. Depression. Schizophrenia. Bipolar. Social anxiety. All the things.

In honor of World Mental Health Day, which is today by the way, I will be taking time to share some personal stories of how I live life with anxiety and how I got out of depression (there’s a curveball for you). With this new series, Overcomer, I want to shed some light on mental health. I may also be sharing other’s stories. And if you have a story that you would like to share, a question you want to ask me without publicly putting it in the comments (I get that. Putting your business out there is scary sometimes), or simply want to say hi, you can email me at nyticia.kizer@gmail.com

xoxo, Ticia



4 thoughts on “I Can’t Do This

  1. Hello there!
    First off I would just like to say welcome back! I miss your blogs and I was worried that I would miss your return,but something told me to check to see if this “tiny but mighty” girl is back at it again- here you are..at it again! Thank you for returning, but thanks even more for using wisdom and taking the break you needed to excel in your classes/hectic agenda. I am extremely and overwhelmingly giddy right now for a couple of reasons 1) I MISS YOU 2) I ADORE YOU 3) These readers do not have the slightest idea of how INCREDIBLE YOU ARE (and I do 😉 ) and 4) You are not only giving encouragement to those who are suffering from mental disorders but ANY ONE who is suffering from the constant battle that is being lost within their mind. My favorite part was when you used transparency to admit that even though your disorder may cause you to not get out of bed, you do not let that loose your awareness of what Jesus did for you on the cross. That is rare! A lot of people do not humble themselves enough to the Lord’s power. What you are basically saying is, “My anxiety -something that is HUGE to me- is still very small compared to the greatness of my God.” That is not, as man, a natural mind-set to have in the midst of suffering. For most, this would bring them to a place of blame and resentment towards the Lord. But not you. Your confidence in Him offers Him thanksgiving and exaltation even when it seems like it makes no sense to do so. What an example of faith to set for those who live their Christian lives in the incorrect order of : (1) God, fix all my problems so (2) I’ll praise You. You’re setting a standard, for all. You’re a power-house, my sweet girl even when you feel too faint to keep pushing. YOU CAN DO THIS but only because you humble yourself enough to know that YOU CANT WITHOUT HIM. Woah. You do not find character like that a lot now a days. Thanks for sharing! I miss you a ton but love you even more.

    Olive Juice


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  2. I work with people in the community with Anxiety. It is always good to have it talked about as most people stigmatize it. I am just there for them and let them be themselves without judging them. I believe Jesus is there for them and would help them without judgement. He loves and cares for everybody including you and me. Bless You


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